If you want to be happy but you are worried. Don’t worry let’s have a conversation with me may be I can help you. Let me try.
Here we go, In 6 parts we learn how to stop worrying and start living.
PART 1
Rule 1. If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did :live in day-tight compartments. Don’t stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime. Everyday is a new life to a wise man.Life,we learn to late, is in the living, in the tissue of every day and hour. Think, “said Dante, that this day will never dawn again. ” Life is slipping away with incredible speed. We are racing through space at the rate of nineteen miles every second. Today is our most precious possession . It is our sure possession.
Rule 2. The next time Trouble with a capital T-comes gunning for you and back you up in a corner try the magic formula given below :
(1) Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can’t solve my problem?
(2) Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst – if necessary.
(3) Then calmly try to improve upon the worst – which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
Rule 3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. “Business men who do not know how to fight worry will die young. “
Relaxation and Recreation The most relaxing recreating forces are healthy religion, sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God – learn to sleep well – love good music – see the funny side of life – And health and happiness will be yours.
Those who keep the peace of their inner selves in the midst of the modern city are immune from nervous disease. If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
PART 2
Rule 1. Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes said that “half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision.
Rule 2. After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
Rule 3. Once a desicion is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your desicion and dismiss anxiety about the outcome.
Rule 4. When you, or any of your associates are tempted to worry about a person, write out and answer the following questions :
(1) What is the problem? (2) What is the cause of the. problem? (3) What are the possible solutions? (4) What is the best solution? A problem well stated is a problem half solved.
PART 3
To break the worry habit before it breaks you here are the rules :
Rule 1. Croud worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing “wibber gibbers .” The worried person must lose himself in action, lest he wither in despair.
Rule 2. Don’t fuss about triffles. Don’t permit little things – the mere termites of life – to ruin your happiness.
Let’s not allow ourselves to be upset by small things we should despise and forget. Remember “life is too short to be little. “
Rule 3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself : “What are the odds against this thing’s happening at all? Let’s examine the record. Let’s ask ourselves “What are the chances, according to the law of averages, that this event I am worrying about will ever occur? “
For every ailment under the sun, There is a remedy, or there is none; If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it.
This priceless prayer was written by Dr Reinhold Niebuhr – God grant me serenity To accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can; And the wisdom to know the difference.
Rule 4. Cooperate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your power to change or revise, say to yourself : “It is so; it cannot be otherwise. “
Rule 5. Put a “stop-loss ” order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it anymore.
Whenever we are tempted to throw good money after bad in terms of human living, let’s stop and ask ourselves these These three questions : (1) How much does this thing I am worrying about really matter to me? (2) At what point shall I set a “stop-loss ” order on this worry and forget it? (3) Exactly how much shall I pay for this whistle? Have I already paid more than it is worth?
Rule 6. Don’t try to saw sawdust. Let the past bury its dead.
PART 4
7 ways to cultivate a mental attitude that will bring you peace and happiness.
Rule 1. Think and act cheerfully, and you feel cheerful. Let’s fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for ” our life is what our thoughts make it. “
Rule 2. Let’s never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let’s never waste a minute thinking about people we don’t like.
To avoid resentment and worry over ingratitude here is Rule 3. (1) Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let’s expect it. Let’s remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one day and only one thanked Him. Why we should expect more gratitude than Jesus got? (2) Let’s remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude, but to give for the joy of giving. (3) Let’s remember that gratitude is a “cultivated” trait ; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
Rule 4. Count your blessings not your troubles!
The late Douglas Malloch said : If you can’t be a pine out the top of the hill, Be a scrub in the valley – but be The best little scrub by the side of the rill; Be a bush, if you can’t be a tree. If you can’t be a bush, be a bit of the grass, And some highway happier make; If you can’t be a muskie, than just be a bass – But be a liveliest bass in the lake! We can’t all be captains, we’ve got to be crew, There is something for all of us here. There’s big work to do and there’s lesser to do And the task we must do is the near. If you can’t be a highway, then just be a trail, If you can’t be the sun, be a star; It isn’t by size that you win or you fail – Be the best of whatever you are!
Rule 5. Let’s not imitate others. Let’s find ourselves and be ourselves, for ” envy is ignorance ” and ” imitation is suicide”.
Rule 6. When fate hands us a lemon, let’s try to make a lemonade.
Rule 7. Let’s forget our own unhappiness by trying to create a little happiness for others. “When you are good to others, you are best to yourself. “
PART 5
How to keep from worrying about criticism.
If we are tempted to be worried about unjust criticism. Rule 1. Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
No one can humiliate or disturb you and me, either – unless we let him. Sticks and stones may break my bones, But words can never hurt me.
When you and I are unjustly criticized, let’s remember. Rule 2. Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of your neck.
To keep from worrying about criticism Let’s keep a record of the fool thing we have done and criticize ourselves. Since we can’t hope to be perfect, let’s ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.
PART 6
Six ways to prevent fatigue And worry and keep your energy. And spirits High.
Rule 1. Rest before you get tired.
Rule 2. Learn to relax at your work.
Rule 3. Learn to relax at home.
Rule 4. Apply these four good working habits: (1) Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediately problem at hand. (2) Do things in the order of their importance. (3) When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to make a decision. (4) Learn to organize, deputize and supervise.
Rule 5. To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
Rule 6. Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about insomnia that does the damage not the insomnia.
I hope you understand how to stop worrying and start living if you want to know more you can read a book written by Dale Carnegie ” How to stop worrying and start living”.https://amzn.to/3CXF4RO
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